Sorry, I Just Can't Understand YOU

PEOPLE - each one is unique. No one is exactly the same, not even identical twins.

I can't understand these people:


1. The Lament-giver

COME ON, it's over. Your tears,curses or regrets are pointless, they will neither.  refine your cracked past nor bring back the good golden time. You can better spend more time working for your better future. Past can't be altered but future could be properly planned, even though God is the real planner. Sometimes, your hard desires wins the fate. If you have been hurt, sit back and relax. Karma will revenge on your behalf and there is no need to revenge. Forgiving one is indeed the best gift you can give to yourself, as you decided to give yourself a chance to move on instead of holding on to the frustrating past.

2. The Jealous One


Nothing belongs to anyone. The rich ones aren't going to take their prosperity to the heaven. Every hard work will be paid, and that's the law of Karma. If you're rich today, it's your karma from the past. If you're not rich today, that's also your karma's merit. Poverty is better than Lordship, whereby good attitudes and personality stands much better value than your property and status. Appreciate what you have today. There is nothing more noble than being truly happy for someone's success. 



3. The Casanova

Sex is a physical process. It is like a sport. Love is a chemical process. It is abstract, therefore I can't describe it. Some people takes love as a sport, they keep changing the players. Some people takes love similar to insurance policy, they claim for deposit of sex to ensure longevity of love. Sex is just the intimate part of love, it takes much more to ensure a successful love story. Love someone, firstly learn to give and take respect. Then, learn to sacrifice. Commitment protects your love story, not sex. Sex just adds spice to it.

4. Desperate love seekers

Understand this: One side love exists. If you love someone, maybe you won't get the return but forcing one to accept you is nothing but PATHETIC! Nobody going to stop you from loving, but if you decide to fight for your love, go ahead fighting in a good way. Win the attention. Emotional blackmail are craps, it reflect your low self-esteem. Who is meant for you, will be your with time. There is no need to rush, or you might be the first one to regret.


5. A Bad Leader

Job of boss is not just to be bossy. You have get down to the field. Monarchy is a mostly a failure, so be democratic. Listen to criticism and learn to develop better leadership from the comments. If you're a sadist, you might be hated by your teammates. A good leader will know how to keep his teammates happy too. Happy workers lead to productive team.

6. The Poker-faced

Being emo is seriously okay till it affects everything else that you do in life. If your boyfriend does not reply your text message, you don't have to show anger on your colleague. If your mum scolds you, you don't have to shout at your sister. Be professional in whatever you do. Smile to people, anger is not a good way ANd of course, grow up! Face it don't Facebook it.

7. The Rude Ones

If you sits at the front desk, you're suppose to be nice. You're not suppose to be ignorant. It is rude to keep people waiting for your answer without acceptable reason. Greet with smile. God will bless you politeness. Learn to respect the elderly. Learn to respect people. A government job does not give you the right to show face at people.

8. The Liar

If you need something or dislike something, just put it into nice words.I will try my best to understand. Truth hurts but lies can kill. If people hates you for telling the truth, at least you was honest and yet they're the loser as they don't like the truth. Move on happily. If you need to lie to keep someone with you, you're not lying to them but to yourself. You are just cheating yourself alone.

9. The Hypocrites 


I have a life to live, and I wish you don't have to be that nosy that you even peep at my new stand fan. Why you need to know about my salary? About my boyfriend. ABout when I'm getting married. Keep your limits, and see how people look high on you. 


10. The Thick Money-Faced

Money maybe something but it isn't everything. You don't have to lose self-respect over it. What shall be yours, will be yours. If you feel manipulated, discuss in a good way, any good people will not cheat you over your share. Be generous, then money will come to you. Greedy people always has something to pay.

11. The Big Boaster

I know you're great to some extent but you don't have to keep on repeating your success stories, unless you have been asked. If you decide to be humble and down-to-earth, more and more people will be attracted to you. In that case, they will be talking about you, your talents will shine in others point of view. Isn't that greater than your cheap attitude of bragging.

12. The Negative Thinker

It is not wrong to think negative at times, to err is human indeed. It is not possible either to maintain positivity along our timeline. Anyway, if you keep on thinking negative, nobody can help you. If you keep on posting negatively on the wall, you will only earn sympathy, not solution. Of course, you can share your feelings, but avoid giving the bad impression about your identity to others. Be confident, be strong. Everyone has great problems, but remember God is greater than your problems. Sai Ram! Even if you share to others, how many really gets you? And even if they do, how many really manage to help you for real? Maybe you will only hear, 'Everything will be Ok'. And does that help you? This statement never helped me, it only made me felt even miserable.



We can't change people but we can certainly change ourself. 


Methods to Overcome the Tough Characters:



1. Lament-giver - listen without arguing, the more you argue, the more they lament or critic.

2 Jealous One - Avoid much contact. 

3. Casanova - Leave him/her

4.Desperate love-seeker - Explain once, avoid next

5. Bad leader - Don't argue, bear till you can.

6 Poker-faced - Don't allow them to spoil your good mood

7. Rude ones - Leave in peace, even if they piss you off

8. Liar - don't get fooled again and again

9. Hypocrites - Avoid as much as possible

10. Money-faced -Avoid commitment, if committed settle their deal carefully

11. Boaster - Just listen to their stories and laugh inside.

12. Negative thinker - Motivate them. If persists, leave them alone.

Curry Has A Story To Tell

Many Malaysian hearts love curry, and that explains why you often see these fans crowding ‘Mamak’s Corner and Banana Leaf Restaurants. Eating with curry is easy, cooking curry is relatively easy too. Anyway, I’m not intending to be the chef of the day by providing you some cooking recipes here. My cooking recipe will remain as a secret, hehe. Well, I’m going to give you more than that because I’m about to reveal the secret of making delicious curry to you.

Let’s start our curry with the choice of pot because the idea here is that, you certainly need a pot to cook curry. Talking about pots, they come in various sizes. Sometimes, you got an opportunity to choose them, sometimes you may not. However, you can’t give up cooking curry just because you didn’t find the right pot. That’s silly. Pot is like our life. Destiny decides your life. If you are given a small pot, you might have a simple life. If you are given a better spacious pot, you might have an average middle class life. Even better, if you have all sizes of pots, you are so called affordable. Now, these pots only suggest our current capability and they are always changeable in future. You might be able to afford better pots in future. While waiting for better pots to arrive, we can make learn to make out curry sizzling in existing pots. Remember, tip number one, pots never going to affect your curry because if you’re a good cook, a pot will just be a medium to prepare the curry.

Now, let us turn on the fire and let the oil heat. Oil is our choice, too much will make the curry oily and if too less you can’t fry the onions. When cooking curry, it’s all about tolerating, it’s about devotion, and it’s about love. When we have elderly parents, we consider their health problems. When we have spouses, we try to prepare healthy meals to avoid them from health problems, though not many spouses may understand our intention. When we have children, we want our food to provide them enough nutrition to grow healthy. So, choice of oil represents tolerance because we are always our life with other peoples, namely worldly relationships.

Then, onions, kids are not going to like them but this Allium cepa plays a big role in preparation of healthy curry. Let takes a simple one, it protects us from common cold though I bet onions never brag that they have anticancer and antioxidant properties. Curry is nothing without spices. I call these onions and spices as responsibilities. Everyone, from kid to elderly, have our own responsibilities. In fact, our life is running on the basis of responsibility. I used to go to school because I was told to go to school by my parents. I suffered there for a quarter of my life, and still suffering in university. Some of my graduated friends are lamenting about their career life. My kid friends are lamenting about homework and my uncle-aunty friends are complaining about daily medicines. Hectic, nobody likes responsibilities but they are good as they make our life move on purposefully. Just like the spices and onions, they appear to be pungent at the beginning, but at the end they save my curry.

Main dish affects my curry too. The way of cooking fish curry is different than of chicken curry. I cook what I can afford, sometimes what I like. Often poor families survive on dried anchovies’ curry. I can say that sometimes it is the best curry ever, better than more expensive mutton or chicken curry. Main dish means love, and it explains that love is better shown on action than words. Love for family members, friends and special ones are priceless. It emerges through sincerity right from the bottom of heart. With love, my curry will always taste better to my loved ones, no matter even when it has only vegetables in it. P.S I’m referring to my favourite ‘Venthiyam curry’.

Curry is impossible with curry powder and there are a big variety of them in the market. Which one to choose? Choice is yours and often the choices are very much individual. I might feel this is better, and you might think this is so not your taste. Whatever it is, we need curry powders, that is the reality. Curry powder is like perception. Everyone has different perception about life and things in life. There is no right or wrong perception, but our life is dependent on our perception. Sometimes it is to come out of our ‘perception’ shell and explore more about the truth of other’s perception. It will enrich our life and lead us to understand others better.

Cooking perfectionists do exist. They want their curry to be as perfect as possible, that they hate other people to interfere their curry business. Yes, I agree that they can make the best curry, but something might still be missing there. I guess it is the fun! Imagine cooking with all the mess here and there and the whole curry session end up in major clean-up. So what? I get satisfaction out of it. My curry might not be the best of the best, but I made my cooking partner happy. I’ve assured him or her, that he or she, hmmm not bad at all. I like to hear when people praise, who doesn’t. I instill confidence in young children that there are good at something. At times, our curry is about making others happy. The satisfaction is guaranteed to be greater than making ourselves happy.

Last but not least, don’t miss the cheapest ingredient yet the most important one which is the salt. Your curry might smell very delicious, but when you taste it and find out that, argggh, it’s tasteless; your curry is almost worthless. Beware to much can murder your curry! The right amount makes your perfect curry perfect. Now, salt is like problems in life. Without problems, life is almost meaningless, in colloquial saying, ‘no kick’. Too much of problems will lead to depression. The best way is yet not to let problems conquer our heart. Remembering Lord as the Doer helps really a lot in dealing with problems.

So what is actually curry? Curry is our heart. The ingredients are our physical and emotional surroundings. We all are actually cooking our curry daily. Experiences make our curry taste better. My curry is very simple, I offer it daily to friends and family. Some appreciates it, some don’t. When they appreciate it, I feel happy. When they don’t, I feel sad because I’m not a saint but I don’t get overwhelmed by that. I know Lord is always a big fan of my curry and He never forgets to visit my Restaurant. Ever grateful for His Grace.

Life Lessons, from the window of my heart

1. People likes you better when you are happy than when you are sad.
2. When you face some big problem in your life, many will come to pour sympathy on you, that's when you will be blinded by false hope. Close your door for these people, say aloud that you need 'empathy' not sympathy. If they don't understand how sympathy differs from empathy, ask them to refer to the 'Oxford'.
3. Grief is long process, it changes everything in your life. It takes own hard effort to come out from it. Times eases the pain, but memories are eternal. Once in a while, you just can't stop the tears when these memories pass by your mind.
4. Friends? Nobody worth a friend during grief because they may seem to understand you. but actually they're not and it's not their fault either because they are not experiencing the same. They have their own problems and own life. They don't have time for you.
5. Some, sorry many friends are 'happy' companions. They shun away from you during the period when you're really put into test.
6. Family? Not everyone gets understanding family members. If you does, be grateful to God.
7. Love and relationships is not meant for everybody, especially not when you have found the totally wrong person. So falling in love, is not necessarily beautiful for everyone.
8. We can never change anyone, unless they themselves want to change.
9. When a girl is all alone by herself in this greedy world, that is when she faces all sorts of challenges. Many things are just can't be shared to anybody.
10. A lonely girl has definitely no one to turn to even when she's afraid, Lord is her sole protector and provider.
11. Listening ears are not abundant, especially when you have a really sad story to tell. Many of voiced dissatisfaction will sound like 'complaints' to many ears. Sometimes, it's better to suppress your feelings.
12. Luck is imaginary in some people's life.
13. Some guys out there are very much oppurtunist, they try hard to use a girl's problem to play with her feelings and even in her life. Because they think, who will defend this poor girl? But they don't know that Sai is her protector.
14. Another type of people, just talk whatever without thinking about the practical applications. Some suggestions aren't good, but people will suggest to you because yet it is not themselves who going to do that.
15. Sometimes you will feel like an orphan and you may question 'is there anybody, name just one person who truly care for you', then you will realize that problems are yours, it's none of others business. They don't have the necessity to care for you.
16. Some just do not prefer to have you around, because you're not important in their life. They will only knock your door when they need some favor. During other time, their ears are deafened even when you ask them something.
17. A few like to pour sweet words on you, in which you knew how much is their 'sincerity'. Like sea waves washes the shore, their words are also temporary.
18. A real protector of a girl, is her daddy. When he's gone forever, there will never going to be a substitute. Fingers are not enough to count the amount of people who hurts her feelings.
19.When people want to see happiness, you show them that you are happy. They will believe that, they will be glad and they will ever bother to know if you are really happy. They don't have too, either.
20. Trust nobody but God. He listens...
This is not just created for fun, it is based on very personal experiences. I'm not tagging anybody here, because it is not meant for anybody. If anyone felt hurt, please accept my apology. I'm not pinpointing anybody'd misdeeds. This is just a sharing of feeling.

People are of Different Colors.

There are many types of people in this world. We all are human. No matter if we differ by skin color, hair color, race, height, weight and others, we all are having something in common, we are human. Anyway, yet we are different. According to Hinduism, your born time may affect your characteristics. Well, a scientific explaination behind this statement is that planetary movement affects the energy being received by every individuals.Thus, people does differ by the mean of their characteristics.
Some people that we meet might very extrovert. They can be social butterflies. Another person we meet might be a total introvert. You may not succeed in knowing them deeply because they might be apparently secretive. It's not the matter of which characteristic is better. For God's sake, keep in your mind, that we can never fully succeed in changing people's characteristics. If you think it is possible, you might end up in great disappointment. Unless people want to change themselves, our effort would rather be a waste.
What you can do then? Instill in them the need to change, that's all. Remember, forcing hard will not take us anywhere. So the real key of success will be patience as time will answer us.
From my personal opinion, i think the best will be finding the one who matches us well rather than someone who is not and then trying hard to change them. Furthermore, love is all about accepting people the way they are and not about changing them for our happiness. If we love each other, we should then consider changing for each other on our own initiatiave.
People are of different colors. We gotta choose the color which suits us, especially when it comes to serious relationship;) Even if we try hard to change people, will they remain same till the end? Some changes are for good, if these changes bloomed deep inside from that particular person's heart. These type of changes are far meaningful.
Relationships do fail due to poor chemistry. So follow your heart always, choose the right person. Good Luck friends!